So Much Hate

Why do people hate?
As simple as vice, it's addicting!

No 90’s kid would deny their “love to hate” association for the movie, Mean Girls. The movie is a classic in terms of girls’ instance of gossiping, backstabbing, and hating, to the point of one-on-one girl crime and bashing. Suggest this film and any person from our generation can drop at least five lines. Bonus if you picked out any character with minor role.

We all know that hate is not the exact opposite of love, but indifference. According to, hate (verb) means "an intense or passionate dislike for someone or something." I don't think I have to define it any further, because it's everywhere. I do not think that there is a school that has no clique that we love to talk about and a person we’re eager to spy on their lives with. Sometimes you might wonder—hey why do we ‘hate’ someone who did not do anything particularly vile on us? Why do we attack someone with words that came from rumors from an unknown and unjustifiable source? Where did this come from? The Burn Book? Nuuh uhhh—it’s within you—or anyone without the courage to put an end to it.

Before you rant me with your Gretchen Wiener’s I-am-hot-so-don’t-you-mess-with-me face, let me give you a brief description of a hater. Notify me if you are one of them:

AN ANATOMICAL ANALYSIS OF HATERS as told by Candy Mag.  (Let the boldness ring into your ears, that’s what gossip feels like)
1.    Brain: Of normal size but belittles everything and everyone especially herself. Common vocabulary terms include “no,” “eww,” and “can’t.”
2.    Eyes: 20/20, except when seeing the good in other people. Hawk-eyed in terms of spotting anything wrong or off. Sees the worst in everything as if her rose tinted glasses actually wilted.
3.   Mouth: Halitosis-free, but reeks of snarky side comments.
4.    Hands: Always pointed toward other people (discreetly), usually accompanied by a loud laugh.
5.   Arms: Usually pushing other people away; constant stance: defensive.

If you scored 5/5 then Congratulations—you are a Certified Hater! I don’t know if there’s a prize for haters since you have lost your friends.

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Now we go to the deeper part, the most common causes of hate. After reading Thought Catalog,  some things just came into my senses like those moments when 1. I’ve been the talk of town in school and 2. When I was the one talking. If you’re an emotional person or someone who experiences discomfort very easily by social media, now is the time to stop reading my post. Are you still there? Okay. A few words before we enter the threshold: Hating is not healthy, but it is very addicting; A vice that drugs you every now and then to spill out word vomit or actual vomit in the incident of talking. Cady Heron is a living proof or fictional image that anyone can get over that pace in life wherein you pollute yourself with cataclysms.

1.    To feel good about yourself
Hermann Hesse, Nobel Prize winner for literature, once said, “If you hate a person, you hate something in him that is part of yourself? What isn’t part of ourselves doesn’t disturb us.” You wish you had whiter skin, or wish you grew a few inches taller—but it isn’t. Then someone walks by with worse skin or shorter height than yours. You put that person down so you could feel better about yourself; or you could forget that some things in you.

2.    To protect yourself
William Shakespeare mentioned, “In time, we hate that which we often fear.” We fear what we do not understand, so we hate it. Example, you dislike extroverts because you think they are so noisy. Living in the comfort of peace and silence, anything that disturbs you will automatically make your day bad. Switch roles, they hate introverts because introverts are so shy and meek on expressing themselves. The both, in separate conditions, are at ease without the other; otherwise misunderstanding will lead to further nuances.

3.    To hide your insecurities
Exhibit A: Say there’s a popular girl you’re dying to hang out with, but she gave you a condition that she’ll only hang out with you if you yell on your less appreciated classmate. The classic peer pressure, of course you know that the mere intention of yelling is bad but you know that if you don’t do it, you’ll be the less appreciated person in school for a year or two.

            There are other reasons why people hate, such as boredom, jealousy, and hostility. No matter what the intention is, hating is still bad. Whether it came from a rumor or not, when someone bashes at somebody, the intention is clear—they want to attack or hurt that somebody. Rumors are dangerous, they dress like a daydream—an attractive clothed criminal who readily escapes at any mistakes they’ve done. People who pass the hate cannot be accused for the crimes they did because the source is either unclear or is playing victim; Sometimes, the rumor is the talk of town that justice cannot be served if it were to punish the entire town in favor over an innocent victim's peace. Don’t believe me? Your parents are also victims. See how they talk about their friend’s family, their friend’s daughter or son, your friend Jaime, your crush Sam, and your neighbor Derek. Whatever they say, they claim to have “with basis” but in truth, every thing is twisted, and no matter how we try to ignore it, rumors infect us—hate poisons us. Hate is an outbreak that has to be stopped!

            Hate lives in us. When we fail to see someone change for the better, we hinder ourselves to grow to the point that we realize that this person we hate so much did not do anything mean to us but the opposite. As we say sorry to this person, they look at us from the spotlight and say, “No, you’re sorry for yourself.” When Cady Heron in the film tries to constantly live for the better, people look at her from the past self. She was just a victim, like anyone of us. She even bore the burden from Regina George’s ruthless Burn Book—still, see, people visited her home due to a car accident and felt sorry for Regina instead of Cady. It’s difficult to watch a hundred people’s eyes looked at you with utter disgust because they fail to see your efforts to become your best self and that you have learned from the past.

“Calling someone fat doesn’t make you any skinnier. Calling someone stupid doesn’t make you any smarter.” In case you want to add, “You’re too gay to function” on anyone so that you could laugh at them…

The next time I hear another rumor, hate mail, or read fan bashing another idol—I tell myself, “These people aren’t important. All they know is how addicting hate is that they fail to feel how amazingly beautiful love and understanding is.”

I first saw this at Julia Barretto's Instagram. I read comments "What's the logic?"
Simple: What you say about someone says more about your character than what you say about the other.

You might say, "Everybody says nasty things to one another. Therefore if you were to punish me, punish everybody!" Fine, you won't be jailed or accused for your vicious crimes (you big mouth!) Yet you have to know this: the damages you've caused seem far of a gap from all the money in the world combined. That's how far you've become with all the hate you had. It didn't do anything good to anybody, not even to yourself...You did very bad to your victim and to yourself. It's your choice if you'll proceed with your successful career! Feel free to launch yourself to Planet Mars if you're not contented with bashing the entire world!
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